Hot Topic: Double Standards

I was talking to a friend, and he told me that he has a new criteria when it comes to choosing girls or girlfriends; they will have to be relatively pure, which means they must have less than 4 sexual partners in their lifetime. Then I asked him how many girls he's slept with. He told me he didn't count, but he gave me the ballpark figure of "low 3-digits". Hold up, hold up, did I hear that correctly? Three digits. Three? Troix? Tres? Tiga? 三? And he only wanted to go out with girls with less than 4 sexual partners? Oh you've got to be kidding me, son.

Let's get to it:

I have absolutely no idea where this double standard came from, but I have a predilection of blaming everything on the patriarchal society because that seems to be the in thing right now. But seriously, I have heard this kind of bullshit since I was a kid and yet no one seems to be bothered by it as much as I am. I think it's absolutely unfair that girls have to carry the burden of being called derogatory names for sleeping around when their male counterparts get high fives and a list of empowering names. 

Historically, I might presume that female prostitutes has something to do with this. Prostitution is dubbed The World's Oldest Profession (not true, it would probably be fishing), so women who sleep around on their own volition are regarded as prostitutes. Women get called names like whore, slut, tramp or scrubber because they take control of their own bodies. The worst part is that people seem to label women a slut even if they've only had sex once. It doesn't really matter how much you've had sex, it matters whether or not you have. And if you have, some say that's the end of the line. Your value on the stock market just dropped. No one's going to invest in you anymore. Our womanliness comes from our purity.

For men, however, their manliness stems from their sexuality. They become a man once they've banged their first girl. Of course, I'm generalizing here, but from what I've seen, most virgin men are not virgins by choice. If given the chance, they would gladly give it away. This of course excludes the pious, who actually are saving themselves for marriage or for whatever reason. Men are subjected to locker room talks, where their show of courage and masculinity is based off of the women they have been with.

Which is quite odd, considering that for a man to be manly, they need women. But for a woman to be feminine, we don't need men. Think about it.

There is a stigma surrounding women's sexuality. In order to be valued, we mustn't give ourselves to men. Virgins are regarded as unicorns, and the sexually immoral are seen as harlots. It's not fair for women to be made fun of and shredded to pieces when they share their sexcapades with their friends. Their stories are rarely ever met with a round of high fives and pats on the back. Instead, they will see condemning eyes and hear unsolicited advice. You know what they say, sluts are women with the morals of a man.

If a man wants a pure girl, then by all means look for them. But it is not okay to have a double standard for the women you look for. If you are sexually active and you have been with more women than Wilt Chamberlain, do not impose your hypocritical criteria on someone else. It is not right for you to set a double standard. It's like being an omnivore and you're only willing to date vegans. 

I don't care if you think that a woman is 'dirty' and 'not pure' after a certain number of sexual partners, because if you think that your dick makes another woman unclean, then you shouldn't be shoving your genitals anywhere. If you think women are pure before the touch of a man, then leave them pure. Don't touch them then blame them for having your fingerprints.

To all the virgin men out there who want to acquire a fellow virgin girl, then by all means do so. Find all the virgins out there. Check their hymens yourself, even. But you have to understand that a pure girl can have a shitty personality while a sexually active girl can have the kindest soul.

Finally, to my friend who has had upwards of 100 sexual partners but is only willing to date/fuck a relatively pure girl, look in the goddamn mirror. You are in no position to exercise that bias. A woman who's had 100 sexual partners is not less of a woman, and if you think that is, then why not blame the men? If women become less valuable with every dick, then why condemn the woman? You shouldn't blame the vase for holding wilting flowers.